When I first saw this picture of my wife Ericaâs beautiful green eyes, I was totally captured. I wanted to gaze deeper into them and discover who she was. They grabbed me. They still do.
Itâs quite amazing the things we take for granted about a person who is no longer physically present in our lives. When my first wife, Pam, closed her eyes for the last time, I cried. For almost 25 years, I had had the privilege of looking into those clear, blue eyes, but that was never to happen again. Continue reading →
Grief is Not Your Enemy
There are all different types of walking: speed walking, casual stroll, strut, shuffle, power walking, etc. Continue reading →
We all miss people who were special to us- and have since died.
My first wife, Pam, died close to ten years ago now. There are times when I miss her. Thatâs fair. Continue reading →
We were awoken abruptly at 3:50 am one morning this past week. There was loud banging on the front door of our ocean side condo. Startled and fearful of whom it might be, I hesitated to open the door. After the second round of loud knocking, I decided to open the door only to find myself face to face with a fire fighter in full uniform. So many things passed through my mind at that moment. His expression and his words were serious and intense. rat-eyed
I was surprised when I took out the $2 coin from my wallet. On one side, there was the usual head of Queen Elizabeth, but on the other, was a sticker the size of the coin that simply said, âThank Youâ. Continue reading →
Tell someone you love them
Is there a person in your life to whom you have not said these words in a while? Someone who really needs to hear them from you? Continue reading →
Christmas is a season of contrasts âÂ it involves both old and new. For the grieving, it is also a time of the year that is mixed with sorrow and joy.
When families gather together this time of the year, they often experience a twinge of sadness as they are reminded that there is a person (or people) missing that used to be with us during this time of the year. 8163899713
Okay, theyâre not really magic..
But I want to believe that they connect me to something beyond myself for a moment.Â And maybe in some way they do. Continue reading →
My mother-in-law died this week. She was the mother of my first wife, Pam, who died almost 10 years ago now.
Iâm feeling for Dad especially right now, her husband, as I recall my own grief following the death of my first wife. I remember how hard it was for me to even think about a life without Pam. Iâm sure it will be hard for Dad too. (855) 728-5792
I love all four of my children very much â but the one that changed my life forever was the birth of my first son, Devon.
I will never forget holding Devon in my arms for the first time. His mom had to have a C-section and so following the surgery, they gave Devon to me to hold. Continue reading →
Dying is hard because of relationships.
Some saying dying is hard because of physical suffering. While I have not personally experienced physical suffering in dying, I have experienced the inner angst that comes from the inevitability of no longer being in relationship with someone whom you love deeply. Continue reading →